What is emotional well-being?

What is it?

We all know when someone is physically ill - it’s usually obvious and they are often keen to tell us their ailments. And we often make allowances in our relationship with them as a consequence whether that be on a personal level or in the workplace.

What is often less obvious and what people are less keen to talk about is their emotional state. People can too easily be embarrassed to divulge that their emotional well-being is less than great. Hence they struggle on and often underperform both in their personal and professional lives. 

In differing guises, the focus of my work has always been on trying to help people be well emotionally. Although inevitably there are many interpretations of what this means I try to help people become more whole, content and balanced so they are as authentically themselves as possible. Not an unreasonable aim in my opinion!

What’s in it for me?

People who are well emotionally have many traits including the ability:

  • to see the value of the setbacks, difficulties, challenges in life and to allow these events to transform them by learning the lessons they offer
  • to notice, know and manage their feelings with honesty and openness
  • to express their emotions and feelings appropriately
  • to be fully responsible for their emotional response to whatever occurs
  • to relate well to themselves and to others regardless of personal feeling about each other 
  • to forgive themselves and others fully 
  • to care for themselves and others
  • to decline to judge their thoughts and actions and the behaviour of others
  • to be truly self-confident 
  • to fully trust their intuition
  • to understand the value of their emotions as a guide for their well being and to trust them in helping them move themselves forward 
  • to have fewer physical and mental health issues
  • to have reduced rates of absenteeism from education and the workplace
  • to be able to focus and achieve at education or in the workplace 
  • to allow their creativity, problem-solving skills, and time-management to flourish
  • to successfully resist any leaning towards drugs, alcohol and other dependencies
  • to be calm and relaxed, even if those around them are not
  • to sleep easily and deeply  
  • to have a purpose and a meaning to their life

How do I get it?

You know that no one approach will bring you high levels of emotional well-being. That would be too easy! 

A multi-faceted approach is needed so that do one aspect of yourself is neglected or over-stressed in any way. All areas of your life need to be considered and brought into focus. These can be divided usefully so:

  • relaxation - allowing yourself time to just be and to observe yourself and others and events. This will reduce the power of your automatic pilot which habitually attaches you to, and involves you in, your emotions. To care with passion, to be truly empathetic and to be fully involved does not mean you have to be entangled.
  • diet - giving your body the “right” sort of fuel for most of the time is vital so that your mind can absorb and control what it needs for you to become and stay balanced.
  • physical activity - some sort of movement is important for your emotional health. This doesn’t have to be onerous or even sweaty but it is needed on a regular basis.
  • sleep - everything seems easier, more attainable and more in proportion when we sleep well both in terms of length and quality. This will develop as you improve your emotional health but there are many things you can do to help directly with this.
  • envisioning - seeing yourself emotionally healthy accelerates the movement towards it. The role of guided visualisations, long and short, can be most effective and are encouraged.

And then?

When people develop their emotional well-being and become healthy they often are content in the knowledge that there is something bigger than them, somehting evn larger than society. This something transcends life, fills a hole in them somehow and is loosely called spirituality.